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Understanding The Uniqueness of Children
As parents or caregivers, we have the incredible privilege of raising young souls, but it comes with a unique set of challenges. We strive to find the best ways to support our children’s physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual growth, but it can be daunting. Fortunately, the Rayid Birth Order Model offers an invaluable tool to help us understand our children on a deeper level. By gaining insights into their unique personalities and traits, we can better support them on their journey towards fulfilling their true potential. With the Rayid Birth Order/Sibling Sequence Model, we can provide our children with the guidance they need to thrive and become the best versions of themselves.
Insights from the Birth Order
To gain a comprehensive understanding of a child’s nature and qualities, it is important to consider the influence of family dynamics.
Understand Yourself
Determining your Birth Order
Rayid Birth Order provides a new level of understanding and appreciation for the unique qualities and strengths of each child, enriching our appreciation for the divine universe we live in. While there are factors that can affect our birth order position, such as blended families or the loss of a sibling, the brief descriptions provided above offer a helpful overview of the characteristics associated with each birth order position and sibling sequence.
In the Rayid Model, your birth order position is composed of three parts: Genetic Number, Gender Number, and Social Number. To determine your Genetic Number, simply identify the gender of your father’s firstborn child. If this first child was a boy and you were born next, your Genetic Number is a #2 boy, regardless of your own gender. Similarly, if you’re the firstborn son, your Genetic Number is “1 boy”. Your Gender Number is determined by identifying which daughter or son you are in your family sequence, such as the first girl (#1 girl), second boy (#2 boy), or fifth girl (#5 girl). Finally, your Social Number reflects your birth position in the house you grew up in. The Social Number such as in blended families or step-siblings will influence your genetic or gender number expression.
The dominant personality and behavioral characteristics that make up your birth order position are determined by your Genetic, Gender, and Social Numbers. Interestingly, your Social Number has the strongest influence on your personality. To find out your birth order position, simply add together your results from each of the three steps. For example, if you’re a Genetic #3 boy, Gender #2 girl, and Social #4 girl, your birth order position would be “3 boy, 2 girl, 4 girl”. You can refer to the birth order descriptions provided above to gain a deeper understanding of what this means. Enjoy discovering your birth order position and the unique qualities it brings to your life!
Birth Order for Adults
As adults, being aware of our birth order and its associated characteristics can provide valuable insights into ourselves. Our birth order influences how we navigate the world, interact with others, and pursue our goals and dreams. However, it’s important to note that this knowledge is not to be used as an excuse or label to justify our behaviors or relationships. Instead, it offers us personal insights into our innate capacities, abilities, fears, and opens the door to personal growth and transformation.
Similar to the dynamic changes witnessed in the seasons, each birth order position encompasses unique qualities that are meant for us to acquire and embody. These qualities serve as keys to our personal growth, well-being, inner peace, and transformation, irrespective of our birth order position. By understanding and embracing these qualities, we can embark on a journey of self-discovery and harness our full potential for a fulfilling life.
Birth Order Qualities
Denny Johnson, the visionary behind the Rayid Birth Order system, unveiled a fascinating insight into the dynamics of family energy through an identifiable binary code. When the eldest child in a family is a girl, she embodies a distinct vibratory quality unlike that of a firstborn son. Energetically, a firstborn daughter is propelled into the world with focused determination, infusing the family with action, physicality, and momentum. Conversely, a firstborn son typically possesses an introspective and imaginative nature, operating as an independent thinker gifted with remarkable creativity.
The influence wielded by the firstborn child is immeasurable, as their energetic imprint ripples through subsequent siblings. Dictated by the binary code, the second child embodies the energetic inverse of their older sibling. This implies that if the firstborn is a boy characterized by inward-focused dreaming, the second child’s orientation will be outward, often marked by physical strength and an inclination for action. This alternating pattern persists, with the third child mirroring the inward focus of the first, and the fourth echoing the outward focus of the second, and so forth.
Acknowledging the distinctive qualities of each child within the family empowers parents to raise their children consciously and with genuine regard for individuality. The Nature of Birth Order, co-authored by Denny Johnson and Edith Cuffe, offers an invaluable exploration into the distinct attributes of firstborn girls and boys, as well as subsequent siblings up to a five in number.
Below is a concise overview of the Rayid Birth Order model, encompassing six girls and six boys, each possessing their own unique qualities.
Number 1 Girl
The first-born daughter, also known as the “Number One Girl,” possesses an extraordinary inner strength and exudes radiance from an early age. She places great emphasis on family values, often taking on responsibilities beyond her years and maturing quickly. This may lead her to assume a nurturing role towards her younger siblings and even her father, earning her the endearing nickname of “Daddy’s little Princess.”
However, the closeness shared with her father and the influence of his mother may sometimes cause a sense of rivalry and competition with her mother, which can be challenging for her. It is important to remind this strong-willed girl that she is not solely responsible for her family’s well-being. She deserves to have the time and freedom to enjoy her childhood, play, and laugh. It is essential to encourage her to pursue her interests, passions, and hobbies to cultivate a well-rounded personality. By providing her with the necessary support and guidance, she can develop into a confident and independent individual, ready to take on the world. To access further information on this topic, we recommend referring to The Nature of Birth Order book, specifically pages 62-67. Additionally, “How to Love Your First Born Daughter” provides insightful and practical guidance on raising and supporting a first-born daughter. These resources can offer valuable insights and knowledge to help parents navigate the unique challenges and opportunities that come with parenting a first-born daughter.
Number 2 Girl
The second-born daughter stands out with a distinct energy and temperament that sets her apart from her older sister. Notably, she carries a stronger influence from her maternal grandmother. Despite her small and slender frame, she exudes a subtle independence and emotional detachment, akin to a cat-like quality. However, her outward appearance belies her sharp and creative mind and her unwavering drive to succeed.
It is crucial not to underestimate this child, as she desires trust, respect, gentleness, and acknowledgment from her parents. It is essential to recognize her unique talents, abilities, and strengths, rather than comparing her to her older sister. Treating her fairly and acknowledging her efforts can foster a sense of confidence and self-worth that enables her to reach her full potential.
For a deeper understanding of the second-born daughter, we recommend referring to The Nature of Birth Order book, specifically pages 68-73, for further insights and guidance.
Number 3 Girl
The third daughter born into a family often exhibits a wisdom that belies her years. She has a good-natured disposition, is sensitive to others, and possesses excellent facilitation skills. Furthermore, she is highly aware of the community in which she lives, prioritizing values such as integrity, fairness, and justice.
This child strives to maintain peace and promote the health and well-being of those around her, and her firm, yet caring, demeanor fosters a sense of belonging among those she interacts with. Her deep affinity with nature is another defining characteristic, and she flourishes when spending time in a garden or taking a walk in a forest.
However, this child is sensitive to criticism and conflict, and it is vital to provide her with a nurturing environment. A gentle hug from loving parents or spending time in nature can help strengthen her inner core during difficult times. For a more comprehensive understanding of the third-born daughter and her connection to her father’s father’s mother, we suggest referring to The Nature of Birth Order book, specifically pages 74-79, for additional insights and guidance.
Number 4 Girl
Raising a number 4 daughter can be a challenging experience for her parents. This child is known for her revolutionary spirit and her ability to initiate change, both within her family and on a broader community level. She may be critical of her parents, particularly her father, and is not afraid to challenge their authority or suggest ways for them to improve.
Despite her seemingly combative relationship with her father, this child secretly yearns for his acknowledgement, recognition, and acceptance. When she does not receive it, she may experience feelings of bitterness and self-doubt. However, with recognition and support, this socially transformative child can become an inspired visionary, capable of effecting significant change.
Both parents should take care to listen to and validate their number 4 daughter’s ideas, as she often has a deep understanding of social dynamics and can offer valuable insights. Referring to The Nature of Birth Order book, specifically pages 80-85, can provide insight into her connection to mother’s mother’s mother and give further guidance and understanding on how to raise and support a number 4 daughter.
Number 5 Girl
The fifth-born girl in a family possesses a compassionate and caring heart. She exudes an air of simplicity and innocence that is endearing to those around her. This child is socially sensitive, gentle, nurturing, and has a natural inclination towards peacemaking. She holds a deep affinity with nature, particularly the animal kingdom, and seeks to foster in others an awareness of the interconnectedness of all life.
Despite her physical strength, this child possesses a gentle interior that can make being around people overwhelming, especially when she feels weighed down by their expectations. She requires periods of peace and quiet, as well as cuddles with a pet or from a loving parent, to recharge and reconnect with her inner self.
Parents who wish to understand and support their fifth-born daughter, who is most genetically linked to her father’s mother’s mother, can refer to The Nature of Birth Order book, specifically pages 86-91, for further insights and guidance. By nurturing her compassionate heart and innate qualities, this child can grow up to make a positive impact on the world around her.
Number 6 Girl
Being born as the sixth girl in a family can present unique challenges for this emotionally attuned child. While she possesses a highly expansive nature, she must learn to ground herself in order to fully realize her potential. Despite her detached demeanor, she is highly focused and possesses a rare level of intelligence and creativity, often producing works of art that are truly remarkable. This child tends to be self-sufficient, requiring little supervision from her parents, but they must provide her with ample patience, spiritual guidance, and freedom to explore her interests. It is important to teach her about philosophy and world cultures without judgement, as she is highly sensitive to criticism and intolerant of attacks on others’ race, culture, or creed. For more information on this sensitive and intuitive girl, sourced most directly from her mother’s father’s mother, please refer to The Nature of Birth Order book, pages 92-97.
Number 1 Boy
A first-born boy often exhibits a dream-like quality, which can be attributed to his inwardly directed and mentally detached nature. This child is strongly independent and may show signs of silent rebellion when told what to do. He tends to be protective of his mother and has a strong energetic connection with his maternal grandfather.
To help this child thrive, it’s essential that his father shows him respect and encourages him to make his own choices and follow his dreams. However, his close relationship with his mother may limit his ability to find his own path in life. It is crucial for her to grant him the freedom to discover himself and become his own person.
If you are interested in learning more about the nature of birth order, you may find useful information in The Nature of Birth Order (pages 16-21) or How to Love Your First Born Son.
Number 2 Boy
The younger brother is the polar opposite of his older sibling, being more physically and emotionally driven. Although he has a closer connection to his father (and his father’s father), he may not always have an easy relationship with his mother, whom he tends to repel.
To ensure this goal-oriented child’s success in later life, it is crucial for his father to engage with him directly, providing him with focus, concentration, and disciplined guidance. This child has excellent fine motor coordination and physical abilities, and he will thrive through his intense determination and courage.
If you want to learn more about birth order and its effects, you may find valuable insights in The Nature of Birth Order (pages 22-27).
Number 3 Boy
This child is known for his cleverness, resourcefulness, and sharp mind, earning him nicknames like the “Chess Master” or the “Chameleon.” He can demonstrate diplomatic skills at an early age, often talking his way out of or into any situation. This child is achievement-oriented and dislikes losing, so it is crucial to teach him early on that truth and honesty are the keys to success.
While he has excellent networking and social mediation skills, he usually prefers to work behind the scenes, managing situations without being the center of attention. However, without positive parental guidance, this child may become manipulative, secretive, and unethical.
To help this child thrive, parents should challenge his mind, encourage his curiosity about the mechanics of the world, and demonstrate the importance of truthful and ethical living. By doing so, this child can reach his full potential and become a positive force in society.
If you are interested in learning more about birth order and the mother’s mother’s father’s impact on the third born boy, you may find valuable insights in The Nature of Birth Order book (pages 28-33).
Number 4 Boy
“A fourth-born boy has a natural charismatic quality that makes him a born entertainer and the life of any party. From the lineage of his father’s father’s father, he has the unique ability to bring people and communities together in joy and celebration, inspiring them to open their hearts for the greater good of all. Generally, this child is popular with his peers and makes an excellent and inspiring leader, with the rare ability to delegate tasks and keep everyone actively involved.
However, as a young child, this boy needs his parents’ attention. If he doesn’t receive it, he may resort to negative behavior to ensure that his parents’ focus is on him. A wise parent will encourage this boy’s creativity and instill in him an optimism for life and engagment in the community in which he lives.
If nurtured properly, this child can grow up to become a positive force in society, spreading joy and unity wherever he goes. To learn more about birth order and its effects, you may find valuable insights in The Nature of Birth Order book (pages 34-39).
Number 5 Boy
A typical number 5 boy is known for his qualities of innocence, gentleness, and kindness. He is an artist at heart, inspiring and uplifting to all who meet him. Like a great artist, he has the capacity to stay focused on the task at hand. This tender-hearted child finds inspiration in the simplicities of nature and dislikes conflict or disharmony, becoming easily overwhelmed by the demands or expectations of others.
For this child to reach his full potential, he needs compassionate parents who understand his need for solitude and quiet “alone time” to allow his inner creativity to flourish. He thrives when held gently in his parents’ arms, without words, but with a soft caress that conveys the message that he is loved.
If nurtured properly, this child can develop into a sensitive and creative individual, bringing beauty and inspiration to the world around him. To learn more about birth order and his mother’s father’s father’s effects, you may find valuable insights in The Nature of Birth Order (pages 40-45).
Number 6 Boy
“A sixth-born son brings a strong presence to the family, being emotionally-oriented, extroverted, and physically robust. This child has the potential to make significant changes in the world with his influential words, so it’s vital to teach him the importance of taking responsibility for his actions and speech. This child needs to learn to accept all people, regardless of their race, nationality, or faith, and to hold no judgments. Raising this dynamic and active child can be challenging for his parents, but by instilling wisdom, truth, and integrity in him from a young age, he can stay true to his path and use his power to bring about positive change in the world. For a deeper insight into the personality of the sixth-born boy and his intricate bond with his mother’s father’s father, refer to The Nature of Birth Order book (pages 46 – 51).